The Pryor Times


October 11, 2012

Words can hurt or heal

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Some people just seem to have a knack for making other people feel good.  They seem to always be able to say just the right thing at the right time.  As a result, people flock to them.  They want to be around individuals like that.  Solomon wrote in Proverbs 17:22, “A merry heart does good, like medicine.”  Similarly, Proverbs 12:18 says, “The tongue of the wise promotes health.”  The right words can really brighten someone’s day.

People can worry about any number of things.  It may be their health, their mate, their children, their job, or their finances.  Some people actually worry when they think things are going along too smoothly.  Proverbs 12:25 says, “Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad.”  Worriers need words of encouragement.  When you encounter people who are depressed, try to think of something that you can say to make them feel better.  Offer to help in times of trouble.

Other people may not be worried, but they are just feeling low.  The right words can help them as well.  Proverbs 16:24 says, “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.”  It has been shown that if enough people tell someone they don’t look very well, they will soon feel sick.  Conversely, pleasant words can make people feel much better.  Let me encourage you to call some people and let them know you are thinking about them.  Not only will you brighten their day, you will find your own day much brighter as well.

When we put forth the effort to make other people happy, it makes us happy.  An old song says, “The way to be happy is to make others happy,” and it is true.  Solomon wrote in Proverbs 15:23, “A man has joy by the answer of his mouth, and a word spoken in due season, how good it is!”

Sometimes words can be of more value than money.  A person may have lots of money and yet feel very lonely.  That individual needs a friend.  He needs to hear kind words of encouragement.  Proverbs 25:11 says, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.”  If a person seeks counsel and gets some needed good advice, the results can be unbelievably beneficial.

The apostle Paul wrote in Ephesians 4:29, “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.”  We should always be careful of what we say.  We should only say things that will build up other people and benefit those who hear us.  Paul says in Colossians 4:6, “Let your speech be always with grace.”

We need to recognize the power of words.  Words have the power to hurt or to heal.  Obviously, there are times when we must be the bearer of bad news.  As a minister, I sometimes have to tell people that a relative was killed in a car wreck, or give them some other terrible news.  But even in such a situation, we should try to find words that communicate our love and concern, as well as words that would help heal their hurt.

It is easy to get into trouble by saying the wrong thing at the wrong time.  Nearly everyone has experienced that.  May God help us learn to say the right thing at the right time.  Ask yourself, “If I were in that situation, what would I want someone to say to me?”  Practice the Golden Rule.  Try to stay in a good mood.  That will help you spread your joy to the people around you.

    There is tremendous power in words.  One’s words may deeply hurt or even kill, but a wise man’s words will make others feel better.  Choose your words carefully!


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